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  1. Toddler, upon being informed that we were coming to visit today, apparently grinned about this for TEN WHOLE MINUTES. My heart.
  2. This evening's social limb wiggling was outside. I think that's the longest I've spent lying on my back looking at the sky in quite some time and it was lovely, partly for watching the birds go and partly for the was-it-mackerel?-with-occasional-larger-fluffs.
  3. Swung by charity shop this afternoon to drop off A Bag Of Stuff. Spotted extremely gay shoes (link has photo, I have not even Tried to actually read the text). Established, via the medium of messaging photos and description, that they were enough too big for A that he didn't wan to try; realised, upon getting home, that the rest of the internet might be interested. Posted photo to FB. Not three minutes later had someone saying YES PLEASE, so back out I went to buy them (and had a lovely chat with the volunteer). (There is also a pair of size 18 Long Tall Sally black linen-viscose mix trousers, with pockets and belt loops, for about £8. If any of you are interested in me acquiring them, only say the word...)
  4. Finished last of cake from Tuesday trip via Ottolenghi: Silician lemon & olive oil. I am very excited to have managed to shake the internet until the recipe came out -- I really really enjoyed the way bay contributed to the flavour; I have historically been dubious about making oil-based cakes (in part because historically they Have Not Worked for me) but I am Excited about this one specifically.
  5. Frivolous stationery: today I have been enjoying staring at photos of an extremely sold out extremely limited edition Leonardo Momento Zero Grande, and also convincing myself that the Midori metal index tabs are sufficiently likely to Do The Job I Want Them To that I can justify them. (I have convinced myself that book darts are not ideally suited to my main current use case for them, and it is time to Accept This and Try Something Else.)
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Approximately all I have managed today, aside from Having A Migraine, is throwing a bunch of vegetables as needed used into the Instant Pot this morning before I passed back out. The noise of chopping was not good, but soup for lunch was. (This is frankly Very Good Going for Having A Migraine.)

Meanwhile, A heroically handled all of the interaction with the human I'd booked to come and Fix The Tramper, so it's had a service and is now WORKING AGAIN (its batteries had finally died), which means I have more ways to get to the allotment again, which is Very Definitely A Good Thing.

Also he picked up a three-piece coal set from freecycle for the benefit of my mother, and while he was out acquired More Dubious Bibimbap and also red bean mochi for dinner. I am well looked after. <3
kaberett: a watercolour painting of an oak leaf floating on calm water (leaf-on-water)
  1. We have had some spectacular sunsets several days running -- all sharply delineated beautifully illuminated brightly coloured fringes and trails of cloud.
  2. I am grinning pretty much every time I look at the hardcopy of the thesis. Giving myself a Nice Tangible Object was definitely a good call.
  3. I first became aware of flowering teas long after I stopped drinking caffeine. I realised, earlier today, that this is a thing I can have -- like, if I'm going to be having regular migraines I am absolutely going to gleefully grab hold of every single possible positive associated experience.
  4. On which topic I have also spent a very pleasant chunk of the day looking at tea bowls, and am going to let the research sit and percolate while I decide which I actually want. (The question is essentially "what kind of blue glaze?" -- naturally.)
  5. Treasure of the day: Papa's army uniform cap, GviR ROYAL ENGINEERS metal crest and all, buried in the last two suitcases of camera gear which I have finally got around to cataloguing today (give or take the two camera cases I have not yet managed to get into, but I'm pretty sure one of them's empty and I've definitely dealt with The Majority Of The Stuff at this point.
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  1. I acquired, a little while ago now, a copy of The Spacious Tarot from Little Red Tarot, a wee shop in Wales that is, soothingly, very earnest about stocking indie decks that showcase a variety of diversities. I've been drawing a card a day to provide prompts for reflection and meditation, and very much enjoying the process and the ritual of the thing.
  2. I have done some tidying of the house, including taking some things as needed it out to the garage for storage of the "well we don't want it right now but we'll probably want it eventually" variety.
  3. Reading-for-pleasure at the moment is very much taking the form of the Familiar and the Predictable and the Pleasant, which means that I'm now working my way through Murderbot again, so that I'll remember roughly what's happened and who all everybody is when the next one comes out toward the end of the month.
  4. Movement. Read more... )
  5. The first chunk of chapter 6... exists, now? I think there are going to be three (context/background, findings, and future directions). It's a little under a page long (where I'm aiming for ~3 pages in total). On the one hand I feel rather as though I am repeating a lot of the introduction (and I will go back and check that), but on the other I am empirically reaffirming that staring at three paragraphs full of [fill-this-in-later] and words that Refuse To Go, followed by fleshing them out, followed by deleting most of them again, is in fact progress. Iterative writing still, it transpires, requires iteration, and also my process still works. Relief-gratitude-relaxation.
kaberett: a watercolour of a pale gold/salmon honeysuckle blossom against a background of green leaves (honeysuckle)
1. New stationery arrived earlier this week, not for using yet, and I keep getting it out and cooing over it. As celebration of Sorting Out The Paper: a notebook with cover design and endpapers by Yellena James, even though my preferred page layout isn't available, because I like looking at the art just that much (though possibly I should have considered just buying a print and maybe I still will...!). As reward for Sending Off Chapter 5 Rewrites: two Archer & Olive notebooks, recced by [personal profile] celeloriel for purposes of (among other things) self-indulgent (this is a good thing!) watercolour embellishments. (Two: because I couldn't decide on cover design; both North Star and Vintage Bee.) And I am laughing at myself, more than a little, because I knew the paper was 160 gsm and I knew I'd looked at the price points and gone "ah, yeah, sure, why not, I'll go for 192 pages" and I'd even looked at the product weight and thought "huh, that's pretty hefty for a book"... and yet I was somehow still surprised that they do, in fact, as advertised, weigh three quarters of a kilo each.

2. On the topic of fance: fancy shower gel. I have known for Lo These Many Years (good grief, actually genuinely at least a decade) that Fancy Shower Gel that Smells Good makes me much more likely to Shower and much less likely to resent it. Turns out, furthermore, that as I get more financially stable I'm more willing to spend slightly ridiculous amounts of money on "it'll last me several months and make me happy every time I use it" as opposed to topping out at 38p/100ml.

3. I am very pleased both about how much better the most recent batch of meringue came out (I think I was using too little sugar and over-beating the eggs, and have now Learned Some More) and how tasty it is combined with plain yoghurt and also frozen raspberries from last year's harvest.

4. Today's post brought me f i v e h u n d r e d lolly sticks. I am going to label ALL the plants. all of them. (And I have started by working out which chillis have hatched! to which the answer is "some of all of them, give or take me killing off the seedling of the variety I was actually least interested in". I will want to sow more next year, I think, but we will see how this batch goes.)

5. Fiction. I have just finished a Craft Sequence reread, and particularly enjoyed The Ships in Ruin of Angels; I am now in a reread of T. Kingfisher's Paladin's Grace, because I got two chapters into Palading's Strength before deciding I'd enjoy it more if I remembered who everyone was, or at least stopped getting them quite so confused, and therefore am giggling away to myself at the Grumpy Perfumer, and generally very much appreciating it.
kaberett: a watercolour of a pale gold/salmon honeysuckle blossom against a background of green leaves (honeysuckle)
  • warm milk with nutmeg, before bed, and washing up the pan afterwards and feeling rooted by the memory of my grandparents arguing about The Most Appropriate Way To Wash Up.
  • turns out I've got a week longer before this chunk of thesis is due to my supervisors than I thought I did, or they think I have anyway, so that's a relief. tomorrow, hopefully, having had A Rest, I will be able to dive back in to sorting out the stability fields of divers silicate minerals during subduction.
  • today in small dragons-related dopamine: I have got half my Bestiary filled in now, i.e. I have collected half of the miscellaneous critters that you can set up as companions to your dragons. this Pleases me, in no small part because it's quantifiable measurable progress at a Thing, which I am badly in need of at the moment, for some reason.
  • I have been entirely too Thesis to mostly manage curling on the sofa with A and being in a pile and chatting about Whatever We're Thinking About, but I did manage it today, and have been getting gradually better at it over the few days, so it is Possible that the reality of the Looming Deadline doing, in fact, that thing where you think you've reached the top of the hill/mountain and then you crest a rise and there turns out to be More of it (this metaphor might have got away from me) is now sinking in and I'm relaxing a bit. Which would be nice.
  • I've set up my experimental bullet journal (on which more at the end of the month, probably) with, essentially, a glorified sticker chart for physio. I am using my ridiculous pack of 60 different coloured pens to tick off each exercise I manage in One Colour Per Day, to make A Rainbow. I did not actually plan my gradient out in advance so I am definitely at Purple and am going to have to loop back around, but also (i) colours, and (ii) I have been getting a lot more physio done. It's the quantifiable-measurable-achievements thing again, right?
kaberett: a watercolour painting of an oak leaf floating on calm water (leaf-on-water)
  • The equinox has passed, and I'm now spending most of my waking hours in slipper socks again, as well as some of my napping ones. Warm feet yes.
  • A spent a bunch of Wednesday-I-think evening Fiddling Around With Electronics, and now we have a bluetooth speaker that can be hooked up to the bat detector such that the latter can be left outside the other side of a closed door leaving the former to Chitter at us when we should be looking outside for BAT. It turns out they are active much later than we'd quite realised, being as they're quite difficult to actually spot once it's actually dark.
  • Supervisor meeting today a combination of cheerful and useful. I have managed over the past week to actually work out what I'm trying to say with these last two chapters, or at least what topics I'm trying to address, and while I'm still shuffling sections around I'm mostly managing to remember that all the thinking I'm doing about it is useful thinking, and the back-and-forth is in fact progress even if it doesn't look like much.
  • A Made A Request yesterday for Quiche Dinner, which I never get around to making just-for-myself, which meant that since I was making pastry I had Might As Well make enough to make a dessert pie as well, which means that for the past two nights we've had cheese-(allotment)tomato-(allotment)onion quiche, served with boiled potatoes and parsley (tastes like home) and, variously, more Cosse Violette and more roasted cherry tomatoes; with apple-and-(allotment)jostaberry pie with optional home-made vanilla ice cream for dessert.
  • I bought a pot of Supermarket Basil in the last-but-one (or was it the one before that?) grocery order; I soaked it in water, separated the plants out, and dumped them in a trough with some more space and a lot of (home-made!) compost. They appear to have mostly survived and taken, and I am crossing my fingers for managing to keep this batch alive a little longer than I usually do.
kaberett: Reflections of a bare tree in river ice in Stockholm somehow end up clad in light. (tree-of-light)
  • On Tuesday evening, my laptop ran out of battery, put itself to sleep, and lost its hard drive. I have successfully (1) not panicked much, (2) got on with my life or at least the mass spec, (3) got A to help me do some simple diagnostics, (4) taken it back to the place I got it less than a year ago and got them to order replacement parts because alas they couldn't sell me something on the spot so I could just go home and spend this evening sorting myself back out, which means that (5) I had the opportunity to dig out the 12-month repair warranty and set it to one side to take with me when I go to pick the thing back up, meaning that this Ought To Be Free.
  • On Monday, we had [personal profile] alexwlchan around. I got some of the spinach-and-butternut-squash-and-roast-garlic-and-ricotta pasta out of the freezer, portioned out the amount we were going to want to eat for dinner, and then absent-mindedly put the remainder back into... the fridge, not the freezer. Which means that dinner tonight -- I got in a little before eight -- is that pasta, along with the leftover tomato-and-mascarpone-sauce, only I'm the only one eating it tonight so it now also contains a slightly obnoxious quantity of chilli, plus bonus nutmeg.
  • The non-existence of buses between Green Park and South Ken due to the Extinction Rebellion protest (which, yes, is very worthy, but this means there is no reasonable accessible route for me to get into work and I had machine time booked and I'm just quite augh about the ways in which this specifically fucks over disabled people massively disproportionately to the effect on people using public transport who don't need level access) led to me getting up ridiculously early this morning and then pushing from Green Park to lab via Hyde Park. This involved two pairs of Egyptian geese with three spotty little balls of fluff each. (Also there were some Loudly Beeping Moorhens, and a lot of yell birds in general.)

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Apr. 4th, 2019 10:56 pm
kaberett: Toph making a rock angel (toph-rockangel)
  • apparently nobody had ever explained to A how to navigate the garlic bureaucracy. he was startled and dismayed when I looked at him mildly baffled the other evening and pointed out that if you squish-and-twist the cloves a little with your fingers before Dealing With The Paperwork it goes more easily. I... am not entirely sure how he'd been dating me for four and a half years (more or less) before discovering this.
  • HE FOUND MY DRESS SHIRT. He! was putting together kit for a LARP this weekend! And rummaging through a wardrobe I had already been through at least three times increasingly frantically! and found a wing-tip pleated-front dress shirt, and was surprised and dismayed that it no longer fitted him really, but hey it worked tolerably well with a cravat for the purpose he had in mind! it was not until he was taking it back off... and putting it back into the wardrobe... that he started going "... hold... on... a second..." so NOW I HAVE MY DRESS SHIRT AGAIN. (This is particularly exciting to me because it FITS, and I had thought it lost forever but had not quite got together the cope to buy a new one, for which I am at this point very grateful.)
  • Ein Teufel sitzt darauf, Mama always used to say of this manner of thing: there's a devil sitting on it (to hide it, to spread misery and strife, as of the M25, thank you Crowley). Ergo I should probably offer a small prayer to St Anthony.
  • A small blessing also upon the gods of cut-price supermarket cheese, for the Cornish yarg wrapped in wild garlic.
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1. I waited in all day, slightly fretfully, but shortly before 6pm UPS actually arrived with... ten... large... cardboard... boxes... of Stuff... for A. (Specifically, garage storage; two sets of three-by-seven Really Useful Boxes, in rainbow colours.)

2. In turn this means that (i) I am about to have WARDROBE SPACE (at least assuming A is as excited about filling the boxes up with stuff as he was about constructing them -- we spent a significant chunk of the evening in the garage...) and (ii) conveniently we turn out to have a bunch of Very Large cardboard boxes and an enormous volume of bubble wrap... just in time for them to be incredibly useful transporting a greenhouse across London. (Whereupon they will GO ON FREECYCLE and vanish fairly rapidly and be No Longer Our Problem, also hurrah.)

3. I finally remembered to actually cut a tag out of a shirt (by dint of hanging it up to dry inside out so that I'd have a shouty visual prompt when it came to putting it away) & suddenly I have an actually comfortable black button-up, instead of one that seems like a good idea until I've been wearing it for longer than about five seconds at which point it becomes Unutterably Wretched.

4. I am almost done wrangling an Enormous Spreadsheet. It is Large, and also Big, and if there is a way to usefully tell Calc "I want everything in this row to three significant figures" I haven't found it yet, but -- one of the big tedious data-wrangle jobs I've been stalling on for the current paper is NEARLY THERE.

5. Bodge-repaired oven meant we got sourdough breakfast bread, hurrah, and maybe I'll manage to deplete stocks enough that I can actually start feeding it again. (I took a small aliquot to Belfast, and ended up bringing back... a significant quantity, so I now have two healthily-sized household gods and it's A Problem and I might actually have a go at pizza dough.) (There was OVEN PHYSICS and it made us both laugh.)

6. TOMORROW I will LEAVE THE HOUSE and GO TO THE ALLOTMENT and SOW SOME NIGELLA SATIVA because having got The Wretched Spreadsheet mostly wrangled I will gleefully and with relief Take A Morning Off. I am really looking forward to this.

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Jun. 11th, 2016 06:23 pm
kaberett: a patch of sunlight on the carpet, shaped like a slightly wonky heart (light hearted)
I am on the East Coast Mainline, sat on the left-hand side in the direction of travel, getting to stare down the cliffs onto bays full of dykes (of the igneous rather than queer persuasion), having picked up a new-to-me wheelchair in Edinburgh by dint of a friend's willingness to collect it from West Lothian, and the gorse and red campions are out and the buildings are Old Red Sandstone and this is amazing (I'm in heaven, I'm in heaven, this is the best thing I have ever seen) -- just: yes, yes, thank you.

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Feb. 17th, 2015 09:12 am
kaberett: a watercolour of a pale gold/salmon honeysuckle blossom against a background of green leaves (honeysuckle)
1. So I was saying that I hoped my supervisor was suitably pleased with my pile of data from this run? SHE WAS. She was, by her standards, extremely effusive; I am basking gently in the glow of having been told that I made the right judgement calls about the slightly difficult mass spec session, that I got a significant amount of good data, that the reproducibility of results was great, that I've done really well with my standard deviations given how low the concentrations I'm working with are. She was just really really nice about my dataset just being... really good work. Basking.

2. I crashed out at 9pm and woke up spontaneously at 6; I had a nice relaxed morning pottering about (packing bag for tonight, eating breakfast, making hot chocolate), got into work at 8am, had my supervisor tease me gently about it (she normally gets in around 7 but today I beat her...), faffed with some more data (including fixing the problem in my 'orrible plotting script that I identified last night after I'd put computers away to sLEEP), tidied my desk, replied to some e-mails, ... yeah, pretty pleased with myself. And I slept super well, so.

3. Help help I am seriously considering setting up a side-tumblr called "kaberants" for the sake of engaging with irritatingly wrong text posts without having them clutter up my set of nice pretty pictures??? (Today's discovery-via-tumblr of the morning: Emily Blincoe's photography.)

4. It is a source of great pleasure to me that it's now light at 7am; soon I will start getting the District line into work again (because it runs aboveground for most of the trip, whereas the Piccadilly is underground for this section). Also, I tamed my hair.

5. Indelicates gig tonight! And I have reason to believe they'll be playing lots of stuff from the upcoming album, which appears to be about SPACE SCIENCE and SPACE ROBOTS and CHOICES and consequently I cry everywhere at it every time :D :D :D :D

(and 6: facesfriend points out to me that if I think he is being ludicrously indulgent of me because he adjusts the toaster to provide me with toast slightly burnter than he prefers it, this is possibly an indication that my perception of myself as Really Difficult To Deal With and Always Making People Go Out Of Their Way is skewed.)
kaberett: a watercolour painting of an oak leaf floating on calm water (leaf-on-water)
On Friday evening we sat on a fifth-floor balcony under darkening skies with cheese and bread and fig jam and alcohol. I dangled my legs through the railings and admired the railings across the way. We talked and talked and talked some more. I gave him the selected works of Neruda I'd picked up in the branch of Foyles at St Pancras on my way over; I note with sadness that it shuts at the end of the month. (Still in England, barely outside London, the train passed a field of red double-decker buses that had been put out to pasture.)

On Saturday we ate at an intriguing vegetarian restaurant recommended by a friend (welcome to identify yourself in comments, just wasn't sure whether you'd be okay w/ naming <3) who was very kind about texting back & forth enthusiastically over the course of the morning. The afternoon we spent at the Louvre, where I was very fond of dragons and the cuticles/lines on a Nisus&Euryalis; and there was a tiny gallery of watches about which I was very excited because there was actually a set-up I'd never seen before -- watches with inbuilt sundials + compasses, presumably so that when they wound down/went too badly out you could establish the time in order to correct them! (Really, really excited - I've visited enough horology galleries to be genuinely surprised to come across styles of timepiece I haven't met before.) Said gallery also featured a very nice implementation of the hourglasses-displaying-subdivisions thing -- instead of a rack of 3-4 hourglasses to be turned simultaneously, it was a column of glass blobs that (one infers) emptied sequentially on the quarter hour. AND there was a gallery of scientific instruments and tiny portable armillary spheres, which always make me happy.

In addition there's currently a formal-gardens competition going on -- Notre Dame and a few other associated places seem to have decided on a theme of "The Illusion", by which they mean they've dumped a bunch of 5' tall mirrors in flowerbeds, which is fascinating if slightly creepy.

AND in the EVENING, after a route home via the confusingly-named Luxembourg park that to its credit contained an excellent brass band, we had EIERSCHWAMMERL. I was staggeringly excited to find them at the shop round the corner from P's, because they are very difficult to get hold of in any appropriate form at any appropriate price in the UK, but I got to do all the appropriate things with respect to frying them in butter with garlic and then drowning them in parsley, and lo it was good :-) (At same said stall I was delighted to find that at least in some parts of France the thing I would call Zwetschke is a questche! Not sure which way the etymology goes but will have a go at hunting it down.)

And then TODAY I slept a lot and then feasted well for breakfast (both mornings P popped to the bakery around the corner and returned with a bag of fresh croissant & pain au chocolat while I murbled around still being asleep in bed; it was great) and eventually we left the house; we walked past bookshops & coffee shops & through parks & the Musee d'Armee (nice dome!) & paused to eat fresh bread & fig jam & Selles-sur-Cher, which is my favourite goat cheese and much more readily available in France than in the UK; and ended up at the Musee d'Orsay, where I fell in love with the giant clock faces as architectural features on the top floor and also suddenly got the point of art galleries in front of le jardin de Monet, les iris -- or at least, I suddenly understood why someone might want to just sit and stare at a painting for hours. Additionally: lots of very nice stuff in the Art Nouveau exhibits, and once we got chucked out we hung around on the bank of the Seine to see the Tour de France go past -- P sort of felt he ought to, and so did I, as I'd ignored it in both Cambridge and London and it was right there and due to go by pretty much as the museum was closing...

... and that, having skipped over a fair amount of the intervening raspberry-and-pistachio-ice-cream, was that; I waved at the Centre Pompidou, managed through cunning overscheduling to fail to make it to Etat Libre d'Orange's flagship shop, for which my wallet no doubt thanks me, exclaimed with delight over a very great deal of architecture and a large number of flowerbeds, was delighted to come face-to-face with ponies, swore a lot about how much I hate people, was very glad I'd taken the wheelchair with me, and ate cherries. I continue impressed by how thoroughly pleasant it is to travel by Eurostar with chair - flat rate gets you business lounge & business premier & actually genuinely tasty food on board, so! I was happy and will do the thing again in the future.

Yes. Good weekend. No work, lots of reading of books, good company. Good.
kaberett: Toph making a rock angel (toph-rockangel)
1. My psych meds are now on repeat prescription; I get two months' worth at a time, two issues before review is required, with the intention that I'll still drop in to talk to the GP once every 5-6 weeks. This gives me so much more flexibility. (I ran out of my ~official~ meds Sunday. Good thing I have a stockpile.)

2. Dude actually responded really well to me being extremely stark and uncompromising about how little risk there was in giving me access to sufficient medication.

3. HE HAS GIVEN ME A COPY OF THE DWP FORM. I AM TO FILL OUT THE BITS HE DOESN'T KNOW THE ANSWERS TO/WRITE SUGGESTED ANSWERS, THEN RETURN IT. :D (There was the point at which he went "... you clearly know a lot about this, probably more than me, which makes you easy to work with.")

4. I've referrals for spirometry and a chest x-ray: he agrees that whatever's going on with my lungs is Weird and deserving of extra investigation, and was Clearly Unimpressed that the last time I'd had a spirometry appt at the practice the nurse had gone "yeah wevs" and just done peak flow on me instead.

5. I asked, in passing at the end of the session, about physio with someone hypermobility-aware, because all the standard physio I've had has been actively unhelpful. "She's on holiday at the moment," he sez, "but remind me next time and I'll refer you to our in-practice person who is really good at hypermobility."


Major fucking props to [personal profile] sebastienne, who came down to London late last night in order to accompany me to this morning's appointment (and ate food I prepared, which always makes me happy, and also tolerated me going "BUT SUNDIALS THOUGH" in the Science Museum briefly). I have such amazing people in my life (yes, you): I am so lucky, and I am so grateful.

(Entertainment: twice this week people have forgotten/wordmistaken on the topic of whether [personal profile] sebastienne and I are dating. Polymer chemistry!)
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1. Codeine. (Codeine and HF turn out to be less axiomatically lethal in combination than one might have expected.) Basically: I've been having a pain flare since the middle of last week, to the point that I've gone "fuck it" and am taking maintenance codeine in addition to having upped my paracetamol dose. (I try not to do that because my supply of opiates is Limited, but hey. Sometimes the thing is necessary.)

2. Slightly to my surprise, I am actually bang on where I wanted to be with the ridiculous schedule [image|text], give or take the thing last week with a question mark on it, which I am... impressed by, given (1).

3. [personal profile] jjhunter wrote me a poem, and then wrote another poem that might as well be for me with as many of my buttons as it hits.

4. [personal profile] elisem made more shinies! Hel was over, and we SQUEALED WITH DELIGHT; it was brill. I am particularly coveting Night Protocols, The Idea, Rising, Emergent Properties, and How The Message Travels; I genuinely cannot tell if I want Watching Over The Lines (to go with Keeper of the Lines, about which I have written a tiny short prose poem THING that explained my own psychology to me more than I ever expected), because the wirework is glorious but it's not quite my kind of rock (both in terms of colour and in terms of research). And I'd love to love 'Much Ado About Nothing' As Performed By Fish for all sorts of reasons, including that it's my favourite play, but that one is definitely not something that wants to live with me for all it's glorious.

5. Burnt toffee dark chocolate, and unrelatedly blueberries.

6. Sunshine!

7. Talking to strangers on the bus, with the specific aim of helping lost tourists find a place.

8. P, who I am actually managing to catch up with some, which is great.

9. Watering my plants (the strawberries are trying to strawberry!)

10. Hel-who-came-over, who is coming over regularly on Wednesdays at the moment because housemate has gaming, I do better when I have someone to feed, they like being fed, and there is TV I adore showing people that they're wanting to get caught up on. Today: leftovers of yesterday's All The Minestrone (seriously, about five litres) and also courgette fritters, with wholemeal bread + lemon + lettuce.

I am tired and in pain but I am also happy. It is nice.
kaberett: Sherlock Holmes and Joan Watson sit side by side, facing forward, heads slightly tilted towards each other. (elementary-faces)
I occasionally mention the concept of making. the job. smaller. Overwhelmed by a task? Okay, alter your concept of "success" to something manageable. You're not going to write a novel today, but you can write the prologue. Or half a chapter. Or whatever. And then you can do another half chapter tomorrow. And then you get to the end, and you look up, and there's a novel.

Counselling and mindfulness and a whole host of other things have, over the years, trained me to at least consider the possibility of don't make the job larger. That's not a framing it's been given explicitly, but it's not exactly an unrecognised phenomenon: to some extent, think sneaky hate spiral (ALL OF THE THINGS ARE PROBLEMS), but also catastrophising (THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD).

For me, it tends to go a bit like this: the Thing is terrible. If I am already overwhelmed, it is even worse than that. I cannot possibly control or have any effect on the Thing [note that this is a distortion: instead of making the job smaller, to make it less overwhelming, I abnegate agency and power in order to do away with choice and responsibility, both of which are Hard]. Anxiety about the Thing then gets displaced onto anything that looks even slightly similar within a large radius: "there is no point in even trying to Deal with the Thing, because it's not like I can handle the Badger either." And thus I spiral further and further into telling myself I'm shit and incapable and incompetent and can't manage anything, and get distressed about wider irrelevant putative problems that may not even be problems, and all the while the Thing looms larger and larger above the foothills of self-hatred.

Mindfulness techniques, as it turns out, have really helped me with this. The meditative practice of sitting with thoughts but gently redirecting one's focus to one's breath, or heartbeat, or whatever, has an awful lot in common with looking at the thought that goes you are too incompetent/ill/crippy/lazy to be on this PhD programme, you can't even adequately read and synthesise literature, there's no point even trying to fix the transfer report, you might as well fail out now and be done with it and - not ignore it, but nod at it, show it to the waiting area, and return to the pargraph at hand.

I sometimes summarise this - possibly via Pratchett - as you do the job in front of you. There's no "just" about it - like I said, it's taken me years to get to the point where I can semi-reliably do this under pressure - but over the course of this evening I've realised just how far I've come in this respect, and I am enormously grateful.

gratitude

Jun. 11th, 2014 06:56 pm
kaberett: a watercolour of a pale gold/salmon honeysuckle blossom against a background of green leaves (honeysuckle)
1. Sunshine.

2. The strawberry plant is starting to have actual fruit on it. Still nowhere near ripe, but nonetheless!

3. Flomping around in vest top and linen trousers.

4. My new wallet. It was a ridiculous extravagance and I felt super-guilty about it, but... it makes me happy every time I look at it, so.

5. Living close enough to friends that if my housemate is out for the evening and I'm not doing brilliantly at food, I can ping someone over IM and ask them to come over for dinner and they will. (I really love that "do me a favour? let me feed you?" is a thing I can ask people.)

6. I am on my first reread of Ancillary Justice because it became perfectly apparent that my brain wasn't going to let me settle into anything else until I did. It is a long time since that last happened.

7. ... apart from the bit where my ereader ended up partway through Famine (by [personal profile] lightgetsin, part of A Deeper Season, the epic Vorkosiverse AU I love to bits) and ~for some reason~ this time round I ended up highlighting huge chunks of it. Ways to fit myself into the world, indeed.

8. My supervisor has replied usefully to the last e-mail I sent her, which means she doesn't hate me forever and I can get on with the things I was trying to get on with with rather less anxiety, thank goodness.

9. People: in addition to spontaneous-friend-tonight, I'm seeing my mum for lunch tomorrow (and possibly visiting
London Volcano in company), and [personal profile] randomling is coming over for dinner Friday night; and TOG is staying Friday-Sunday morning. And I then have about three different options for Interesting Things I Can Do With Nice People on Sunday afternoon.

10. Having finished The Middleman, I have persuaded my housemate that A:tLA is a good choice for Next House TV Show. However I am probably going to try to get my act together to make Orphan Black a thing we can do together next season, given how much the entire Internet seems to like it!
kaberett: a patch of sunlight on the carpet, shaped like a slightly wonky heart (light hearted)
You do not press me neatly. You
do not fold me small. You do
not reduce me to simplicities.
You let me sprawl. You say
when I have (inadvertent) hurt you.
You give me choice and chance;
you ask that I be not afraid, and
take me by the hand to show the way.
It grieves my heart to give you pain, and yet
all this and more I'm joyful thankful for.

Gratitude

Apr. 9th, 2014 08:33 pm
kaberett: Toph making a rock angel (toph-rockangel)
Yesterday I woke up at around 6; by 6.15 had started to worry that I was this awake without my alarm having gone off and checked the time; and at 6.20 decided I wasn't getting back to sleep and might as well go into work. So I did, and I got a lot done, and oh but it is light at six, and the air was crisp and lovely as I made my (grouchy, limping) way up Exhibition Road; I was in lab by 7.30, whereupon I started the process of drying beakers, weighing out rock powder, and faffing about with HF. That I was quite so underslept and quite so ill goes a long way towards explaining why I had a Minor Incident (but no exposure; deets in a locked post). But! I got more Science Progress done than I'd even been hoping to manage, which puts me in a really good position for next week; and then I printed off and posted some documents for [personal profile] alexseanchai; and then in sunshine and relief I made my way home and ate apple cake my housemate had Produced (as if by magic!) while packing.

And then I got myself onto a train - in, still, the sunshine; you might be spotting a theme here - towards the dwelling of Those Two People; and upon arrival I took the gentle wander up the hill and smiled with delight about all the cherry blossom, and also about the fact that everything is getting ready for Holy Week: the forsythia and catkins are all exactly as they should be.

Upon arrival I was greeted by That Fucking Cat. I was, in fact, accosted at the top of the stairs, and required to scritch her. Including her belly. (She does this utterly bizarre thing of rolling over onto her back, looking appealingly at you until you scritch her belly, and then closing her eyes in bliss and not attacking your hand at all. The closest she comes is very gently bracing a back paw against your forearm, claws carefully and delicately sheathed. It is bizarre.) That One Lady ended up glancing over from the sofa to see why I was taking so long to actually make it into the house proper and say a proper hello, and then burst out laughing.

Obligatory image of the terrible animal. )

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It's amazing how productive I can be when I'm avoiding sewing and hoovering.

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