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[kaberett]

So I have spent Several Years being utterly perplexed at the idea that it's impossible to put a corset on without help from a second person.

It has literally only just occurred to me that my complete bafflement on the topic might be because my shoulders are hypermobile.

Is-- is that it? Is that why there's this bizarre incomprehensible cultural meme that the only way you can possibly put a corset on solo is with the aid of a coathanger and a doorknob? ENLIGHTEN ME, INTERNET.

Comments

[naath]

oddly I've never got the hang of the wiggling the bra round thing... like? doesn't it *hurt*? (maybe I wear my bras tighter than average? idk?).

[kaberett]

I mean... yes, it did hurt some? but not any more than any other aspect of wearing a bra? bras hurt and were awful and I Just Don't. (Binding also hurts and is awful a lot at the moment so I'm mostly just... not bothering. At all. And really looking forward to this being a Solved Problem via the magic of Modern Medicine.)

(Also you wiggle it around in the direction that means that the flappy bit with the eyes on gets smoothed out the direction it's supposed to go rather than trying to double back on itself, but also I don't think that's actually a thing that you're flagging up as a problem that needed solving!)

[naath]

Not wearing things that hurt is certainly a Winning Strategy. Modern Medicine is awesome and will hopefully solve this for you soon.

(I think this would have become obvious had I ever really tried, but no, it's the scraping-against-skin that I can't stand, if the bra is loose enough to do that comfortably it is too loose to provide the support I want)

[redbird]

That may not be something naath was flagging up, but it's one I will try to remember for the days when my shoulder is bothering me or I'm otherwise having trouble with fastening the thing while the hooks and eyes are behind me.

[azurelunatic]

I can't wiggle it around because I'm squishy and in order to support my tits it's got to be Quite Tight even though I'm squishy.

[shehasathree]

Yes, but it's literally the only option i have for putting on my bra if my partner is not around. (I would love front-fastening ones, but they're rarer than hens teeth and cost at least twice as much.) I also tend to wear them quite tight, and have taken to standing in front of a fan while dressing so that my skin is completely dry, otherwise: badness.

Ironically(?) the reason that i am unable to do up my bra (or anything else) behind me, is...my hypermobility. My shoulders have been "stiff" for as long as i can remember - turns out that's the chronic muscle spasms and osteoarthritis, and the joints themselves actually have notable laxity. /o\
(I'm assuming my shoulders subluxed all the time when i was teeny-tiny until they just NOPEd out, but no-one noticed.)

[rjw76]

If a bra fits correctly then unless you have an unusually small waist for the rest of your size it will be uncomfortable to clasp it at the front and wiggle it round. To provide adequate support the back band does need to be pretty tight.
I assume that smaller breasted people have less trouble in this area because the annoying thing for me when wiggling the bra is that the rather ample underwires catch on the base of my breasts...

[kaberett]

Unusually small waist was in fact where I was at last time I wore them, good catch.