Coming out (over and over again)

[kaberett]

I'm trans: specifically, genderqueer. My pronouns are "they".

I'm queer.

Please feel encouraged to ask questions, this weekend. If you're embarrassed about asking them in public, you can e-mail or PM me and I'll post the answer here.

This is important, because the more you understand the less likely you are to hurt people by fucking up. (I am, of course, assuming good faith; and I do not, of course, speak for everyone who shares identities with me; but I've read a lot and can probably point you in the right direction, and will do my best to explicitly flag up controversies where I'm aware of them.)

Comments

[kaberett]

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I'm not sure I quite understand the first question -- can you rephrase please?

[pretty_panther]

If I mentioned something you had said, in a post, would themselves or theirselves be the preferred pronoun?

[kaberett]

Ah, thanks.

I would tend to the singular (theirself/themself) but otherwise it is entirely down to your language usage patterns, I think? Like, I would expect "they said it themself" rather than "theirself" but I am not prescriptivist enough to lay down any laws about general situations :-)