I do want to clarify some that I was providing a very brief summary of something she genuinely has written Entire Books trying to explain; to sketch a slightly more expanded version, this is something she says very clearly in the context of trying to draw clear distinctions between "vulnerability" and "weakness" for the sake of an audience that's assuming vulnerability = weakness, and weakness = bad.
(Examples she gives of vulnerability that don't really work for me include "giving comprehensive and thoughtful apologies" in the way that I... kinda default to, these days. It hadn't occurred to me that saying "hey, I screwed up, here's my best understanding of how & what I'll try to do differently next time" could be considered "vulnerable" because these days a lot of it is just... automatic. I have drilled it enough that I don't have the anxiety about Losing Face If I Say I Was Wrong any more, so it's not... scary.)
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Date: 2020-01-10 11:07 pm (UTC)(Examples she gives of vulnerability that don't really work for me include "giving comprehensive and thoughtful apologies" in the way that I... kinda default to, these days. It hadn't occurred to me that saying "hey, I screwed up, here's my best understanding of how & what I'll try to do differently next time" could be considered "vulnerable" because these days a lot of it is just... automatic. I have drilled it enough that I don't have the anxiety about Losing Face If I Say I Was Wrong any more, so it's not... scary.)