kaberett: Trans symbol with Swiss Army knife tools at other positions around the central circle. (Default)
[personal profile] kaberett
I note with mild amusement, however, that I have in fact now trained myself to respond automatically to misgendering from strangers trying to sell me things on the street.

"Excuse me, miss--"

"Not a miss!" I call back, as I keep wheeling.

They usually follow up with "... Mrs?" to which my response is "Nope!"

This lot continued with "Ma'am?"

"Nope!"

"Sir?"

"Closer, but no!"

... and then I disappeared around the corner.

I continue astonished at how much better it feels to correct people without actually investing any of my time in the interaction than it does to completely ignore them.

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Date: 2019-02-07 08:48 pm (UTC)
niqaeli: cat with arizona flag in the background (Default)
From: [personal profile] niqaeli
Ooooh. *files that one away*

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Date: 2019-02-07 09:52 pm (UTC)
sfred: (Default)
From: [personal profile] sfred
:-D
<3

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Date: 2019-02-07 10:34 pm (UTC)
alexseanchai: Ladybug, of Miraculous fame, with a rainbow Pride background (Default)
From: [personal profile] alexseanchai
*dies*

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Date: 2019-02-07 11:28 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] alexwlchan
That’s ~excellent. :D

(Sympathies re: misgendering)
Edited Date: 2019-02-07 11:34 pm (UTC)

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Date: 2019-02-08 09:20 am (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
I'm longing for the moment I can deploy "About 5/10/20 minutes" :)

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Date: 2019-02-08 10:46 am (UTC)
cesy: "Cesy" - An old-fashioned quill and ink (Default)
From: [personal profile] cesy
I like it!

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Date: 2019-02-07 08:36 pm (UTC)
shanaqui: My Habitican mod avatar, featuring me and a pile of books bigger than me. (Default)
From: [personal profile] shanaqui
*takes notes*

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Date: 2019-02-07 08:46 pm (UTC)
hollymath: Selfie: white person, three-quarter profile, smiling, brown hair shaved on the side we can see, chin-length on the other (Default)
From: [personal profile] hollymath
I think of Janet from The Good Place going "Not a lady, not a robot" when I do corrections like this. :)

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Date: 2019-02-07 09:50 pm (UTC)
sfred: (Default)
From: [personal profile] sfred
<3

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Date: 2019-02-07 09:08 pm (UTC)
redsixwing: Red-winged angel staring at a distant star. (Default)
From: [personal profile] redsixwing
WONDERFUL <3

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Date: 2019-02-07 09:35 pm (UTC)
steorra: Part of Saturn in the shade of its rings (Default)
From: [personal profile] steorra
The thing this knocks loose in my mind is of less significance, but:

When I was studying in the US, I'd often get asked if I was registered to vote. I took pleasure in saying "Nope, not eligible".

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Date: 2019-02-07 09:50 pm (UTC)
sfred: (Default)
From: [personal profile] sfred
Good self-training! *admires*

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Date: 2019-02-07 11:30 pm (UTC)
forests_of_fire: A picture of a brilliantly colored waterfall cascading into a river (Default)
From: [personal profile] forests_of_fire
That's an awesome way to address it.

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Date: 2019-02-08 06:34 am (UTC)
azurelunatic: The Space Needle by night. Slightly dubious photography. (Default)
From: [personal profile] azurelunatic
Excellent.

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Date: 2019-02-08 07:12 am (UTC)
ironed_orchid: (wrong sort of question)
From: [personal profile] ironed_orchid
::grins::

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Date: 2019-02-08 08:20 am (UTC)
sylvaine: ticky-boxes labeled "male", "female" and "fuck you" with a tick in the the last box. ([gen:sj] gender: fuck you)
From: [personal profile] sylvaine
Yeeeeeees πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

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Date: 2019-02-08 09:22 am (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
Score one for Kab!

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Date: 2019-02-08 10:46 am (UTC)
cesy: "Cesy" - An old-fashioned quill and ink (Default)
From: [personal profile] cesy
I love that you can do this on autopilot.

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Date: 2019-02-08 03:07 pm (UTC)
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)
From: [personal profile] silveradept
Well done, and especially for doing it without...breaking the wheeling rhythm? (I haven't found a good chair equivalent for "breaking stride," which is completely inappropriate to use in this situation.)

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Date: 2019-02-10 02:11 am (UTC)
jedusor: (you can play)
From: [personal profile] jedusor
I generally don't engage random strangers when they misgender me but am intrigued by the relatively recent phenomenon of occasionally being misgendered as male. A few weeks ago a beer league hockey opponent addressed me as "Mr. [surname]" in playful frustration with my defensive competence and I had more feelings about it than I was previously aware could be felt simultaneously XD

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