I am also not arguing or saying anyone's way is wrong. Your thoughts about possessives make a lot of sense to me.
I use both. One of my reasons for claiming "victim" is that we get so many messages that victims are weak, victims are bad, victims are surrendering to the abuse, victims brought it upon themselves. I use it as: Yes, I was a victim of a crime (many, actually!), and I'm still here, a strong, successful person. The crime is the responsibility of the criminal, and being a victim does not make me bad or weak or blame-worthy. And also being weak is okay, surrendering is okay. There's so much about the whole victim narrative that's problematic, and takes responsibility away from the perpetrators.
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regna
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Date: 2015-06-24 06:40 pm (UTC)I use both. One of my reasons for claiming "victim" is that we get so many messages that victims are weak, victims are bad, victims are surrendering to the abuse, victims brought it upon themselves. I use it as: Yes, I was a victim of a crime (many, actually!), and I'm still here, a strong, successful person. The crime is the responsibility of the criminal, and being a victim does not make me bad or weak or blame-worthy. And also being weak is okay, surrendering is okay. There's so much about the whole victim narrative that's problematic, and takes responsibility away from the perpetrators.