Things I've learned from counselling #4
Jan. 29th, 2013 11:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kaberettNo excuses, no explanations, no apologies.
Nobody has to be wrong, but that doesn't mean that nobody is wrong.
The tagline of this post doesn't apply all the time either, of course - but no is a complete sentence. If asking someone to leave my room, or telling someone to stop touching me, or any one of a large number of other things - "get out; stop that" is all I need to say. I don't have to engage in conversations aimed at undermining my boundaries.
I don't owe excuses. I don't owe explanations. I don't owe apologies.
"This is my space and that is not okay" is enough.
Nobody has to be wrong, but that doesn't mean that nobody is wrong.
The tagline of this post doesn't apply all the time either, of course - but no is a complete sentence. If asking someone to leave my room, or telling someone to stop touching me, or any one of a large number of other things - "get out; stop that" is all I need to say. I don't have to engage in conversations aimed at undermining my boundaries.
I don't owe excuses. I don't owe explanations. I don't owe apologies.
"This is my space and that is not okay" is enough.