It was kind of fascinating how the letter itself sort of mirrored the gaslighting she more or less lives in - like the non-detailed summary, the initial layout, totally reads as "ah okay spouse has some cluster-B damage and there are definitely ways to address - " . . . and then you keep reading!
And then it's like . . . bb that's not 95%/5%. It really isn't. That's "this person is actually controlling and abusive all the time, and maybe 95% of the time you manage to live in a way that doesn't bump up against that, and also get out."
But yeah I wouldn't take comments on that one either. By the end of the letter that situation description is well into "also once you've left him do not agree to meet him alone anywhere, ever, for any reason" territory, but there'd inevitably be someone who . . . tried to argue with it.
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Date: 2018-09-03 01:09 am (UTC)And then it's like . . . bb that's not 95%/5%. It really isn't. That's "this person is actually controlling and abusive all the time, and maybe 95% of the time you manage to live in a way that doesn't bump up against that, and also get out."
But yeah I wouldn't take comments on that one either. By the end of the letter that situation description is well into "also once you've left him do not agree to meet him alone anywhere, ever, for any reason" territory, but there'd inevitably be someone who . . . tried to argue with it.