who only by moving can balance

I approve of anyone who works on spreading kindness. ♥

From:

Your generosity had done me so much good, from driving my rubbish to the tip to helping me navigate life as a somewhat-reluctant homeowner. We've spent so much good time together, it means a lot to me.

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kaberett

Today in therapy I talked about trying to fit meaningful self-care in around... everything, and whether hosting a love meme and an open house was *actually* a good idea for me. And I came to the conclusion that, yes: because it underscores and reinforces that people choose to be kind to one another, to look after one another, to seek to see the good, and it might be work but it's work that will reaffirm things I desperately need right now.

I'm not convinced about inherent goodness of people (

sebastienne keeps reminding me, through the choices they make, to extend good faith more frequently) -- but I am convinced that people can choose goodness, and that there's a lot of space to build on in that potential.

I'm sorry things are so hard. I see you.

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I like that philosophy.

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sfred

I am extremely glad that you are in my life. You think about things A Lot, and you are articulate about the thinking you are doing. You do righteous anger and you do compassion, in the right places. Thank you.
<3

From:

Oh look, it's me. :)

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haggis

It's a you! You make my life better for being in it. Your thoughtfulness, interesting thoughts and sharp sense of humour are really valuable to me.

You are directly responsible for me getting good mental health support when I needed it TWICE and converting me into a linguistic descripivist :D

From:

OMG the descriptivist thing is so unexpected and genuinely makes me grin. Thank you, for all of this.

From:

♥

From:

steorra

I don't know you at all but I like your list of interests: astronomy, curiosity, enthusiasm, etymology, linguistics, neurodivergence, old english [my favourite!], and others.

From:

Old English is my favorite English too. :D

From:

steorra

:-)

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kaberett

I have a perpetual sense of calm quiet relief at your Knowing What Is Going On, and Having My Back, and your excellent sustaining activism. Thank you, and for your writing, and for your compassion, and for your enthusiasm about museums, and for just... being there. Existing. I'm so, so glad I know you.

From:

I'm so glad I know you!

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mrs_leroy_brown

You rock. You're a passionate activist, a caring friend, an articulate writer, and your hair is boss. Plus you know what what "Minnesota nice", "bubbler" and "uff da" mean and as my identity blends and melts and smudges, you feel like an ally in this sea of confusion.

From:

as my identity blends and melts and smudges, you feel like an ally in this sea of confusion.

And you are the same for me and I'm so grateful for that. It's so valuable to me.

From:

chanter1944

Congratulations on citizenship/naturalization! Not sure which term you prefer, but it's super exciting for you anyhow. :D

From:

I hadn't thought about it much, actually! But now that I do, I think I prefer naturalization. Thanks for inspiring me to consciously think about this.

From:

silveradept

It's you! Who has braved the darkest places and come out the other side with naturalization and has shone lights upon the places that need illumination.

From:

This is exactly what I try so hard to do. Thank you. <3

From:

sfred

Hello :-)

I am very happy that you are my friend and that I will soon be nearer to you, more of the time. I love your interest in Stuff, especially where our interests in Stuff overlap, but hearing/reading you on the subject of Stuff is interesting, whatever sort of Stuff, because you are such a good writer/enthuser.

From:

I look forward to you being nearer too! Thank you. <3

From:

zimena

You have a beautiful writing style, and you come across as very insightful and intelligent. I admire that.

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I really love how politically active you are. <3

From:

kaberett

I am identifying and articulating and enforcing boundaries. I am finding ways to take care of myself that build community. I am facing up to a bunch of stuff that scares me, and doing it anyway, on a wide variety of fronts, and it's helping me believe that I can keep going and keep making a difference.

Hope in the dark of uncertainty, and that.

Edited Date: 2017-06-08 12:09 pm (UTC)

From:

Thank you for persisting and striving and just pushing forward in general. You are wonderful and kind and an inspiration to my brain on bad days. You are Good in a time where Good things can be scarce and I am gald you exist.

From:

shanaqui

I appreciate your analysis of yourself and your relationships and interactions. I appreciate your support of me. You make me feel like I am not alone and like it is okay to have the kind of brain I do. And I appreciate this meme.

From:

You are so, so resilient and it's inspiring that you are always willing to work on being a better person, even if the path to being a better person is difficult and rocky and definitely not easy.

From:

watersword

You are a good. You are a good in my life specifically.

From:

ludy

I've only met you once IRL and that was lovely. Mostly I know you from your words
You write with such insight, compassion and honesty. You provide useful information (and fascinating recipes) and a helpful example of self-analysis and courage. Thankyou

From:

Well done, and thank you for thinking of the meme, and it is always a mood lift to see what things are pleasing unto you today, and ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

better to light a match than curse the darkness

From:

ewt

You are doing all those things, and you are also supporting others to do similar things. Thank you so much.

From:

recessional

You have come so far even just in the time I've known you, and you put so much genuine work into being a good person, it's amazing. <3

From:

I love how articulate you are, and how conscious you are of your place in the world and the things you can do. I think I'm better at that myself for seeing how you do it.

Thanks for doing the work of this meme when I think a lot of people really need it.

From:

I don't know you well, but you offer your space for people and that makes you a person to celebrate and admire. Thank you for that. And your thoughts here deserve a lot of support. I truly, really hope you get that, and I wish you the best of luck.

From:

Your posts are always interesting and often moving, and I love the variety of things you write about.

From:

silveradept

You have helped me a lot as a guide and friend and person with the tools I needed. I am much closer to an end now than I was before.

From:

ironed_orchid

I appreciate your sense of personal accountability, and enjoy reading your posts very much.

From:

steorra

I like you a lot. I always struggle to say what I like about people, so I respond to these things less often than I'd like, but I'll try to say a few things, though they hardly begin to capture what I like about you.

I appreciate your willingness through the years to talk with me about Stuff, including Stuff that we come at from rather different angles. I appreciate that the fact that I come at some Big Stuff from a very different perspective than you hasn't turned you away.

I also appreciate your posts talking about counselling and working through issues and ideas.

Also I like your enthusiasm for geology. I would love to get you to give me a tour of some rocks some day, if there were ever a context where it made sense.

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sfred

You are kind to others and to yourself and you set good and useful examples of how to do both of these. You are fighty about the things about which I think people should be fighty!

You make my online life richer and happier, and I am very glad when we see one another in person because you are awesome out there too.

Thank you.
<3

From:

chiasmata

Thank you for being you. Thank you for being such a staunch support during my divorce. Thank you for always being on my team. I admire so much the way you keep on keeping on, and how you persevere with the hard stuff.

From:

I love seeing your Tumblr posts. They are always so interesting! <3

From:

cesy

You cook great food and build communities and demonstrate good relationship skills.

From:

pipisafoat

I love you. I can't pick a specific thing to say because there are too many & my brain just can't, but it is still important to say that I love you a lot & for many many reasons but mostly just because you are you. I love the you that is, the you that was, & the you that will be, that is inside & working so hard to come out.

From:

redbird

You give me things to think about, and new ways to think about things.

You have also introduced me to other cool people on here.

From:

davidgillon

My life is better in every way for knowing you. Even physically!

From:

untonuggan

thank you for getting me to take my pain seriously, and helping me self-advocate, and offering me to be my "shouty crip advocate" across the Pond. It really really helped when dealing with medical shit. Like, I think maybe you morphed into a mental armor I conjure up for myself when I have to deal with that and don't have a shouty crip advocate in the room physically with me? So thank you.

From:

alexwlchan

I appreciate your ability to self-reflect on your life and relationships. I’m glad you’re running this thread (even if I arrived several months late!) And I admire your ability to use that self-reflection to effect change and improvements.

And we need to sort out coffee/lunch!

From:

This would be nice, yes.

Even now, in this place where my brain feels like a heaping pile of rabid wolves, I appreciate the kindness of others and wish to spread good things myself. Thank you for doing this.

From:

shanaqui

I like interacting with you, love your Friday posts, appreciate your presence in my life.

From:

I love how accepting you are, of everything. I don't have to hide my flaws and weirdness and neurotic behavior. It's such a relief.

Edited Date: 2017-06-08 01:49 pm (UTC)

From:

Awesomesauce person, right here. *points* ♥

From:

You are wonderful, and so good to me, and I could never actually put into words how much I love you but I'm never going to stop trying. <3

From:

kaberett

I regret that I do not have the energy to participate in Friday check-ins but I am so glad that you host them and that they exist, and so grateful for all the community-building work you do, and your focus on positives and achievements and incremental change. And your thoroughgoing commitment to compassionate and honest creation. <3

From:

silveradept

I am happy to see you post, and I really enjoy the sparks of creativity that come out onto the page.

From:

I am really glad for your Friday posts too: I rarely comment but I always read and that does me good. Thanks for doing them.

From:

auntsarentgents

Thank you for doing this.

I am mostly trying to focus on work, as creating output helps my branes.

From:

That is a feel I know. Not work work, but artistic work—if I'm still creating beautiful things, or improving my skill in an area such that I can later create beautiful things, nothing can be too badly wrong, right? So, sympathy and cheerleading :) ♥

From:

kaberett

I am sorry you are having such an ongoing rough time of it.

I value immensely your activism and your creativity and your commitment to the world.

From:

shanaqui

My exam was awful, please love me.

From:

I love that you're passionate about knowledge and books and learning. <3

From:

home the maths-conquering hero comes :) ♥

From:

silveradept

You are doing great and difficult things with the people around you, and I am glad to see you both striving and succeeding.

From:

*loves you. Loves you for many, many reasons but the most important one is that you are you and that makes you fantastic.*

From:

untonuggan

your exam was awful but also now it's over! also thank you for helping me with personalized book recs when I finally got through enough brain fog to read fiction again. It was really helpful, because it was super intimidating to try to figure out what to read. <3

From:

kaberett

I am so sorry you're having such a rough time of it. <3

I love reading your talking-about-science. I am delighted that you are a source of rabbit pictures for me to show

me_and. I enjoy your book squee.

And I feel less alone knowing that you exist, and I watch you being careful and considerate and wary and loving and I feel a bit more able to face the world. Thank you.

From:

alexwlchan

*sends love and hugs*

Always impressed by your ability to read, nay, _consume_ books. And while the circumstances aren’t always pleasant, I always like seeing your tweets about ace politics. I go back to them on days when I’m feeling small about that stuff, and it’s reassuring to see somebody else standing up for ace folks!

From:

zimena

Yes, please?

Thank you,

kabarett, for doing this! May it be fun for everyone, and with lots of love to share.

From:

♥

From:

jenni_blog

When I am feeling down your posts always lift me up and make me feel better. :)

From:

I love your enthusiasm and your posts usually make me smile. :)

From:

chiasmata

Me please :)

From:

♥

From:

lilliburlero

I always enjoy your posts about relationships, professional, familial and romantic, and the incisive intellect you bring to interpersonal emotion.

From:

kaberett

Hello you. <3

I am grateful for your companionship and your mentorship and your trailblazing, and your wry and loving commentary on the world, and your support. I love seeing the things that you make. I love your participation in Clovember. I love that you are fierce and honest and brave, and that all of those thing coexist with your being exhausted and scared, and I love your honesty and your commitment to true-enough.

And I love how you care about people, and how you interact with landscapes, and your competence.

I am so glad to know you. <3

From:

Yes, please.

From:

I hope many more awesome things for your publishing career :) ♥

From:

Thank you! It's all very exciting :-)

From:

cesy

You wrote an amazing book that means a lot to me and a lot of other people.

From:

Thank you so much. I never get tired of hearing things like that.

From:

kaberett

Your writing is laugh-out-loud funny, for me, tempered with wryness, along with being brilliantly done; I appreciate your insight and your work for change and your integrity; and I very much enjoy your appreciation of beauty.

From:

I could always use some love.

From:

♥

From:

♥

From:

I think you're fantastic, I appreciate getting your thoughts and opinions on things, and I'm both so glad and so lucky you're a part of my life.

From:

(much belated) thank you. ♥

From:

kaberett

I love your science round-ups. I love your enthusiasm. I love how you write about your life. I am glad I get to read and to know you. <3

From:

thank you. :) ♥

From:

You are Good. You are Good and there is so much appreciation for you and your lovely ways. <333

From:

thank you so much. ♥

From:

I am glad to have "met" you here on DW and to get to read your words. :)

From:

thank you! ♥

From:

redbird

Me please.

From:

I wish I could see your garden; it sounds glorious.

From:

redbird

Glorious might be more than it deserves, but I should get some photos.

From:

kaberett

I am very fond of your writing about food and about plants more generally. And your commitment to activism and incremental change, and your talking about the things (large and small) you do to make the world a better place, which reminds me that doing things piecemeal is better than not doing them at all. Thank you.

From:

ludy

Me, please.

My life has shrunk in recent years and i'm finding it hard to hold on to any sense of worth or hope.
I know that there is Beauty and Goodness in this world but sometimes it is very hard to connect with that.
I'm trying to keep on doing what I can do...

From:

I feel these feels. ♥

From:

I like you very much, it's always good to see you and I appreciate your updates here for being so thoughtful, honest and perfectly you.

I hope the world gets a bit bigger and a lot kinder for you soon.

From:

kaberett

I admire your stubbornness and resilience in the face of significant and heartbreaking challenges. I am soothed by your interactions with your smol relatives. I am bolstered by the good faith you bring to interactions.

From:

sfred

I am pleased that I have seen you outside the internet recently, and I am pleased that you are my friend. I particularly like that we have enough shared cultural whatsits to be able to speak shorthand with each other in ways that I can't with many of my friends. I love getting your messages celebrating the turning of the year.

From:

♥?

From:

dariaw

lots of <3 <3 <3

From:

♥!

From:

♡

From:

♥

From:

♥♥♥♥♥

I admire your drive, your ideas, and your compassion.

From:

*blush*

From:

<3!

From:

♥

From:

chanter1944

I love that you adopted a rescue kitty! :)

In the interest of not being a creeper, I've seen you around Ysabet and Dialecticdreamer's journals in the past. Then I came across Thea's faded calico tale (somebody made that play on words and I sharding love it), and then I read that she was adopted, and... I went a-reading. Hi! You seem, to borrow another phrase, like coolness. :)

From:

Yep, I've seen you around thereabouts too!

She is currently sleeping on top of my pile of to-sort papers. For srs.

From:

ironed_orchid

I love how active and supportive you are in DW communities. I'm always happy to see comments from you.

From:

*bounce*

From:

silveradept

I am cheering and awed of the spiritual journey you are undertaking, and I vet on further the way you are standing up for yourself in the face of strong pressures to give up and do what others want.

From:

♥♥♥

From:

You are good and should feel good. <3333

From:

:)

From:

steorra

I appreciate your support when I was struggling with job application for the bookstore job a few weeks ago.

From:

Glad to help!

From:

cesy

You adopted a kitty and that's great. <3

From:

She is currently sleeping on top of my pile of to-sort papers. For srs.

From:

redbird

Thea. Not just that you adopted her, but that you thought about whether you could do it, and were willing to ask other people for help. And now that you're paying attention to this specific kitten, and telling us about how she is settling in with you.

From:

:-D :-D :-D

cat paralysis
is by far the most pleasant
disability

From:

untonuggan

I never get tired of hearing your ideas about paganism. All the love.

From:

*bounce* ♥♥♥

From:

kaberett

I admire, so much, your creativity and your commitment and your compassion and your patience. <3

I miss having the brain to bounce poetry around with you. I am hoping it will reappear.

From:

*blush*

I hope so too! I miss seeing new poetry from you :)

From:

ewt

Yes please.

From:

♥

From:

You write the most gorgeous music, and you are passionate and eloquent about justice and the way things work.

From:

gool_duck

I like you.
I like the way you care, about people, and about love as an active thing of doing things to make people's lives better.

From:

kaberett

You feel, in many ways, like an anchor: yes you have uncertainty and difficulty and doubt but you are tenacious and you act with integrity and compassion and care, and I am so grateful for your mentorship and advocacy and support.

I admire all of the work you do, on yourself and with and for others. <3

From:

steorra

Me please.

Edited Date: 2017-06-08 04:08 pm (UTC)

From:

♥

From:

steorra

Thanks! :-)

From:

You are always so very thoughtful, in both senses: considerate of others, and carefully considering the world as it presents itself to you.

From:

kaberett

I very much appreciate your thoughtfulness and your openness to solemn consideration (and your sharing of the results thereof); I enjoy reading about your life and your relationships and your enthusiasms.

From:

I am putting my name in! My pronouns are she/her.

From:

toft

I appreciate you so much. You're funny and wise; I love your wry wit and your awesome dress sense. I love how much you like animals. I find you very comfortable to be around online as well as IRL, which very rarely happens to me.

From:

Thank you!! Gosh. likewise. <333 I love you a lot.

From:

chanter1944

The ever-brilliant WisCon attendee and panelist! :D

From:

Thank you!! <3

From:

You always have the best links at

access_fandom.

From:

Thank you! So glad you appreciate them!

From:

pipisafoat

send love (& baked goods) (& encouragement for slipping mental health, teaching a service dog new & difficult tasks, and appealing a disability denial) (& cute animal pics)

From:

Here is my favorite picture of my dog, the cutest animal I know.

From:

pipisafoat

that is a great picture of a really cute doggo! *rubs ears if dog likes* thank you

From:

"appealing a disability denial"

I hate that phrase so much. Why they gotta gatekeep. Why can't they just have compassion. And, like, rich folks particularly, share nice with others. I wish you many strength and many good luck.

Here is latest pic of Thea-kitty and she's pretty much taken over that Instagram so have at :)

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untonuggan

I really love your letters when I get them, they never fail to make me smile, and disability denials suck and I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

This is actually good motivation to upload some more cat photos to Flickr so I will do that and then link back? Yes.

the lastest photo of Amelie getting along with the other cats. Lily is trying her darnedest with "you should snuggle me and then we will be friends and then you will wash my ears". Amelie totally smelled her ear and it was progress, even though when Lily looked at her she got scared and hissed. (Lily then went back to sleep and Amelie did not run away, so this is GOOD.)

Way more cat photos on Flickr, currently sans photo descriptions because I am tired.

Edited Date: 2017-06-12 06:14 pm (UTC)

From:

calliopes_pen

Me, please.

(Thank you for hosting this!)

From:

seandc

Please? Always.

You make me a better person; refined the wild colonial out of my manner (mostly)...

And you put up with my antics :o)

From:

♥♥♥

From:

dreamwriteremmy

Us please (our journals are

dreamwriters and

dreamwriteremmy)

Thank you for hosting this!

Edited Date: 2017-06-08 07:33 pm (UTC)

From:

I see you around

ysabetwordsmith way, don't I? Leaving prompts and whatnot? Inspiring creativity is a thing of much value. :)

From:

I know you're going through a rough time, but you all keep on fighting and that's admirable. <3

From:

Love is always good.

Thank you for this.

From:

silveradept

I like seeing you and all of the creative things that come from you. I want to build couch cushion forts and keep the bad things away with a big pointy thing with you.

From:

I love you more than everything. Not just because you are currently making me food but all the time. You are the world and stars and sky to me. Thank you for loving me as much as you do and thank you for being in my life.

From:

james

You're wonderfully creative and talented; I sometimes wish I could just shove confidence into your skull like pillow stuffing, but alas it doesn't work that way.

From:

I am glad to be getting to know you here on DW. :)

From:

*flails about magic and tarot and other ways in which you are inspirey*

♥♥♥

From:

I really admire how you keep going, even when your brain decides to throw you for a loop. You have such resolve to live. <3

From:

analise010

HIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!! The short version is: you rock.

The long version is: you started off as my tarot homie and now you're a True Bro. You always have time to signal boot for others and give so much to the peoople in your lives. Even so, you still know how to take care of yourself and pull back when it's necessary. ♥

From:

chanter1944

I'm uncertain of their pronouns, but they darn well deserve some warm fuzzies.

From:

gehayi

Awww, thank you so much. It's good to hear this today. (And the pronouns are she/her.)

From:

She doooooes. She writes lots superb fic! Is always good to see an AO3 notif with her handle on!

From:

chanter1944

Throwing my own beanie in the ring. Feeling no little bit isolated lately, I admit. A lot, though not all, of that's distinctly on me and mental health not being spectacular.

Edited Date: 2017-06-09 12:50 am (UTC)

From:

I enjoy seeing you at WisCon!

From:

chanter1944

Thank you! :D

From:

I see you're nearly due to donate blood again. (Heading for your four-gallon pin? Impressive. I have a one-gallon certificate, though I think lifetime I might be over two gallons by now, it's just that not all of it was donated in this state so this state hasn't record of it all. idk for sure, though, I lost count altogether.)

This is a thing I do not do as often as I should because it never fails to screw up the whole rest of my day and sometimes the next day too, but it is a fantastic thing to do! Way to go, literal lifesaver!

From:

chanter1944

First, <3! Thank you very much, fellow literal lifesaver; a gallon of blood donated is nothing whatsoever to sneeze at. As far as the tally goes, if your donations were through the Red Cross, they should be able to pull up a history of your prior donations regardless of location. Mine have all been within the same state, though not the same town or county, so I could be entirely wrong about their ability to pull records nationally... but it would make complete sense if they could. I have zero familiarity with other organizations and how they do things record keeping-wise, I'm afraid.

I'm sorry donation has a tendency to foul up the rest of the day for you, though. :(

From:

silveradept

Things have gone on for far longer than they should have, and I am still picking up the pieces of myself that were shattered in its wake.

From:

Best among Silvers, and dearest. Strong, capable, wise, kind, sweet, hard-working.

*seagull noises*

From:

*hugs?*

I am DETERMINED I am gonna get this damn novel thing done THIS time and when that happens it will be YOUR fault ( [locked]

)

...and I hope you're gonna like it :)

thank you for, idk, permission to go at it again?

From:

quartzpebble

You're still here, still kicking, have gotten through shit that no one should have to deal with, and are still going. Massive kudos. You've done and are doing such a hard thing, and I admire that.

From:

sfred

Yes, please - even though the news is less awful than it might have been.

Edited Date: 2017-06-09 10:43 am (UTC)

From:

ludy

You are lovely - and great to do Organiser Stuff with.
It's always good to see you IRL (and to "see" you online). I admire your good-heartedness and thoughtful compassion. And I admire your bravery and openness.
You do a lot of good in the world, often very quietly and unobtrusivly but also when necessary with boldness and passion. Thankyou.

And I also enjoy our shared background cultural shorthand :)

From:

sfred

Thank you :-)

(I forgot to come back and check for comments!)

From:

I'm so glad I know you. I miss you but also feel like I spend time with you because of how consistently you write about your life and your thoughts, I feel like I'm always caught up and that's nice.

From:

sfred

Aw, hurray :-)

I miss you too.

From:

♥

From:

sfred

:-)

From:

It's been an intense few weeks.

From:

I imagine it has! Hugs?

okay so today was many stress and then just when I thought I was on the way down the mountain it all went to shit, right? and I was grouching at #yuletide and you said "dear developers of the world: please LOG DESTRUCTIVE ACTIONS" and like. it wasn't even a big thing you did or an important thing you said here. it was just another point in your pattern. just the sort of thing one casually does when one is the sort of person you strive to be.

From:

quartzpebble

YAY. You've been incredibly supportive and I really appreciate that, and I am also delighted to observe the increase in happiness over the last year or so.

From:

silveradept

You are closer to your goals, and to your partners, and to hopefully, better sleep on a more regular basis. You have accomplished much and greatly.

From: