My 2am in music videos

Frank Turner -- Reasons Not To Be An Idiot [TW misogyny, major misunderstanding of how depression works] I'm building bonfires of my vanities and doubts/to get warm, just like everybody else

P!nk -- Don't Let Me Get Me doctor doctor won't you please prescribe me something/a day in the life of someone else

Frank Turner -- I Am Disappeared I keep having dreams/of pirate ships and pioneers and Bob Dylan...

The Indelicates -- Ill [TW mental illness] you'll never take enough of those pills/you know you're too clever to be mentally ill

Barenaked Ladies -- Testing 1, 2, 3 begin the testing - 1, 2, 3/can anybody hear me/if I shed the irony/will everybody cheer me/if I acted less like me...

Manic Street Preachers -- Black Dog On My Shoulder there's a black dog on my shoulder again/licking my neck and saying she's my friend

Barenaked Ladies -- War On Drugs [TW suicide, drug abuse, mental illness] won't it be dull/when we rid ourselves/of all these demons haunting us/to keep us company//won't it be odd/to be happy like/we always thought we're s'posed to feel/but never seem to be

Pink Floyd -- Comfortably Numb well I can ease your pain/get you on your feet again

Queen -- The Show Must Go On inside my heart is aching/my make-up may be flaking/but my smile still stays on

Frank Turner -- I Still Believe now anyone can take the stage/and make miracles for minimum wage

P!nk -- Fuckin' Perfect [TW disordered eating, self-injury, abuse, bullying] pretty pretty please/don't you ever ever feel/like you're less than/fucking perfect to me

P!nk -- Raise Your Glass so raise your glass if you are wrong in all the right ways

Sometimes fathers have to be examples

This post is a translation of an article originally published on emma.de. It's an idiomatic rather than a strict translation.

Nils Pickert has started wearing skirts - because it's something his son likes to do. After all, the little one needs is an example! And anyway - long skirts with elasticated waistbands suit him. Read on for a story about two mould-breakers in a South German province...


Today is skirt day! Father and son taking a stroll in the pedestrian zone of a small town in South Germany

My five-year-old son likes wearing dresses. In Berlin Kreuzberg, that's quite enough to get drawn into conversation with other parents. Is it reasonable or ridiculous? I always want to shout back, "Neither!" Unfortunately, they can't hear me any more - because I now live in a small town in the south of Germany. Barely 100,000 inhabitants; very traditional; very religious. You might even call it the Motherland. Here, my son's preferences aren't just a topic for parents - they're the talk of the town. But I did my part in making that happen!

Yep, I'm one of those fathers who try to bring up their children equally. I'm not one of those "academic daddies" - the ones who drivel on about equality of the sexes during their studies and then, the moment a child shows up, settle back into the welcoming embrace of cliched gender roles: him busy with his career, her taking care of the rest.

It's become clear to me that I'm part of a minority - one of those people who occasionally make fools of themselves. Out of conviction.

In my case that's because I didn't want to have to talk my son out of wearing dresses and skirts. His choices didn't make him any friends in Berlin - which, after careful consideration, left me with only one option: to square my shoulders for my lad and put on a skirt myself. After all, I can't expect a kid too young to go to school to have the same self-assertiveness as I'd look for in an adult, especially not when he's got no examples! So: now I'm the role model.

And that's how we ended up wearing skirts and dresses on milder days back in Kreuzberg. Hey, I think long skirts with elasticated waists look pretty good on me. Dresses? They're a bit more difficult. And as for the Berliners, well, they reacted positively or not at all. In my little town in South Germany, it's a rather different story.

In the middle of moving stress, I totally forgot to tell the teachers at the kindergarden that they should make care my boy wasn't laughed at for his clothing choices. Only a little while later, his self-confidence was gone: he couldn't face going back to playschool wearing a dress or a skirt. And then he looked at me with pleading eyes and asked: "Daddy, when are you going to wear a skirt again?"

To this day I'm grateful to the woman who was so caught up in staring at us that she walked straight into a lamp-post. My son was bawling with laughter - and the next day he fetched a dress back out of the wardrobe. At first, he only wore it at weekends - but it wasn't long before he was dressing how he liked at kindergarten again.

And what's the lad started doing in the meantime? Painting his nails. He reckons nail varnish looks pretty on me, too. When other boys (it's almost always boys!) try to make fun of him, he just grins at them and says, "You're just not brave enough to wear skirts and dresses, because your dads aren't either." He's made broader shoulders and a steel-reinforced spine for himself - and all thanks to daddy in a skirt.

Nils Pickert, EMMAonline 20.8.12