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I've got a loosely-organised collection of around 10 people who remind me to do basic self-care, visit me so I have a reason to prepare food when my housemate's out, do the laundry, help make groceries happen, definitely who facilitate sleep, prompt me to do housework that makes me feel better (see yesterday's todo/tada), and so on, and so forth.
All of this is work. I am simultaneously much less and much more independently functional than I look.
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Date: 2014-07-30 12:19 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2014-07-30 01:27 pm (UTC)REasons i am more functional living with Steve than i was living with my parents: not just about escaping emotionally toxic environment.
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Date: 2014-07-30 01:39 pm (UTC)~K.
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Date: 2014-07-30 05:49 pm (UTC)But oh do I hear you on living with people being simultaneously necessary & hard work...
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Date: 2014-07-30 03:15 pm (UTC)There's also overlap with second wave feminist writings like "Why I want a wife," about the ways the culture teaches men that they will have a lot of this taken care of for them: a shape of traditional marriage in which it is a given that a man will have someone else to make dinner and remind him to eat it, get the groceries and toilet paper and such, be responsible for the home being clean, maybe buy his clothes for him…
And from here, the problem isn't "nobody should be doing that for you," it's the assumption that the category of people who get that done for them should be isomorphic to "men."
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Date: 2014-07-30 05:50 pm (UTC)Also, re "everyone needs a wife" -- oh good call, I'd totally not put that together. Huh. Huh. Thank you!
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Date: 2014-08-01 04:41 am (UTC)Everything that has been already said, pretty much.