The not-a-darkroom-orgy love meme

[kaberett]

Hello everybody!

I know we've just had a string of really big love memes, but a comment floated past on my reading list today and I thought: yes.

In particular, someone was expressing a desire for a "not a darkroom orgy" meme for Valentine's Day: not because they don't intend to participate in the local darkroom, and not because they think there's anything wrong with the darkroom, but just because they'd like a dedicated space for something that isn't quite that. And, well, it can be a rough time of year for people, especially with the message that monogamous heterosexual relationships are the most important kind of relationship, so I think a healthy dose of respect and love might be no bad thing. <3

This post will close to new nominations on the evening (GMT) of Sunday the 17th, but I intend to keep unscreening comments to threads for as long as they come in!

Love meme

♥ Nominate yourself or someone else, anonymously or logged-in, by putting your/their username in the subject line of a comment to this entry. If you do not know for certain the person's preferred pronouns and they do not list them on their DW profile, please use gender neutral pronouns as a default. Other people can then reply to that comment with goopy declarations of love, reasons that person is awesome, sparkly expressions of admiration, etc! All comments are screened, and I'll unscreen them as they arrive. (So, if your comment doesn't appear right away, please be patient; I'll leave my online status at the bottom of this post to keep people updated on whether I'm unscreening or not.)

♥ If you don't want to be nominated, or don't want comments referring to certain things [body/appearance, wrong pronouns, etc] to appear on your thread, please let me know; I won't unscreen any such comment or nomination. If I make a mistake in unscreening something, if you want a comment to your thread unscreened or deleted, if you have any concerns you need to raise -- please just tell me, and I'll attend to it as soon as I can. If there are any inappropriate comments made to a thread, I will check with the person being referred to before unscreening.

♥ Share the love: please do send people over here (and to your own thread!)

♥ These guidelines are modeled on dingsi's love meme guidelines, with modifications by jjhunter and wording lifted from surpassingly.

♥ That's it -- happy posting!

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Index:-
amianym
angelofthenorth
automaticdoor
azurelunatic
deborah_c
hairyears
kaberett
liv
ludy
mirabehn
mirrorshard
rysmiel
whump
zarhooie/misskat

Comments

azurelunatic

[azurelunatic]

azurelunatic

I could use a little love.

whump

[azurelunatic]

emceeaich

Whump crafts his words to better suit his excellent intentions, and thinks of those around him.

kaberett

[(Anonymous)]

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rysmiel

[(Anonymous)]

rysmiel

Re: kaberett

[azurelunatic]

They are excellent company and have enlightening thoughts on rocks.

[angelofthenorth]

I could use some love :)

Re: kaberett

[rysmiel]

On first meeting, kaberett struck me as impressively sharp, articulate, interesting, kind, strongly present as themselves, possessed of a well-defined sartorial style which very much suits them, and a nice person to hug. Continued acquaintance via the internets does not provide further data on absolutely all these virtues but has been strongly confirmatory of all those the medium allow.

Re: rysmiel

[liv]

rysmiel is near kin to me in ways there isn't good language for. It's not romantic, and it's not Platonic exactly, not as people normally employ the term. We're close in ways that are intensely physical and embodied and emotionally rich.

We have an affinity which seems almost miraculous sometimes, although we're in many ways very different in personality. We also put in a lot of time and effort to making absolutely sure we understand eachother, explaining and clarifying and trying to convey our thoughts and states of mind as well as can be achieved with words and listening.

rysmiel has been making me wiser and more joyful for a decade now, and I have tens of thousands of words of email draft ongoing to convey even more nuance of exactly what they mean to me.

I love you, dear friend.

[liv]

You are truly beautiful, inwardly and in your physical features. And you're so very much present in your life, you allow yourself to feel and experience everything to the fullest. I've never known anyone so thoughtful and generous; you're always doing things to make other people happy, and you consider the actions they really need, not just the ones that will give you the most glamour and admiration.

[kaberett]

I am so, so impressed by how hard and continuously you work: at compassion, for yourself and others; at learning, whatever the topic; at community-building. You are an absolute inspiration, and I am so delighted to have met you.

Re: azurelunatic

[kaberett]

This week or two, I've been really impressed by how you've been approaching shitty (hah) workplace situations with humour rather than the kind of wailing & gnashing of teeth I'm using at the moment!

More broadly, your letters-to-self about morning routine/to-do lists are a really spectacular exercise in self-compassion, and they always boot me into doing Something that will make my morning less grim - thank you.

&, of course, I love your thinky-thoughts whenever you have time to write them up. <3

[merrythebard]

What a lovely idea!

I could definitely use some love just now.

[merrythebard]

You are one of my favourite people in the world. :-)

I love your kindness, your wisdom, your emotional skill-levels and awesomeness. You are patient, and brilliant, and compassionate. You are also *so much fun*.

Learning from the way you do Christianity has made me a better Pagan. :-)

You have one of the most infectious laughs of anyone I know.

I love singing with you! And I am so looking forward to next time I see you. :-)

And the Elephant Flag is still one of the most wonderful things anyone has given me.

Love you!

Re: rysmiel

[kaberett]

I'm pretty sure I've been aware of and admiring you for years and years and years as someone who prefers gender-neutral pronouns online - you were such a big deal to me and I never said anything ;)

I'm so delighted to be getting a chance to know you, and I am thoroughly inspired by your writing and your commitment to publicly tracking how you're doing with it.

You're amazing.

Re: rysmiel

[hairyears]

A person I have glimpsed, online, and in person - once - at a wedding; but much can be seen in a glimpse and a picture fits together from the pieces, glimpses, and partial conversations, of people's lives enriched, deeply and beautifully, by knowing rysmiel.

Hairyears

[hairyears]

I have all the love, and more, than I can know; and some of you know whom and from where.

But there is always, always, more: no-one has a monopoly on it, and expressing love - a little or a lot of it - makes more, and makes it new again.

[mirrorshard]

You have it, always and so much.

[mirrorshard]

Love, from all the copious evidence available, uses you, and we're all very glad of that.

mirrorshard

[merrythebard]

Who is too embarrassed to put his own name on here, but could also do with some love just now.

zarhooie/misskat

[azurelunatic]

zarhooie is the best kind of braintwin. She consoles me, lifts me up, and conspires with me. THERE WILL BE SHENANIGANS.

Re: mirrorshard

[kaberett]

And have it he shall: because I don't know him, but a quick poke around his blogs various has easily convinced me he's worth it! I am delighted by the deconstruction of Heinlein, & his art is beautiful: bare trees are exactly what I love best about this time of year, so seeing them beautifully & creatively reproduced is exactly what I wanted on my way to bed. Thank you :-)

Re: kaberett

[ewx]

They actually put in some effort to collect cast-off books they've asked for. Anyone who thinks this isn't remarkable hasn't tried giving away enough books!

Liv

[liv]

I've always been nervous of participating in love-memes, because I feel I don't know the culture or etiquette. But this one seems to be full of people I know, so I am tentatively putting my name forward.

[liv]

I admire you very much, I'm even a little in awe of you. One reason is the way you're a tenacious, committed activist yet you always manage to retain kindness and compassion when you're responding to fail.

Re: kaberett

[footpad.livejournal.com]

I am in a position to confirm all of the above.

Moreover, they've compelled me, in the gentlest way, and less late in life than I otherwise would have, to reevaluate everything I ever tacitly assumed concerning gender, which has made me a better and more comfortable person, presumably with infinitesimal yet non-negligible consequences to the betterment of society as a whole.