kaberett: Sherlock Holmes and Joan Watson sit side by side, facing forward, heads slightly tilted towards each other. (elementary-faces)
[personal profile] kaberett
Okay so. You have a cupboard. The cupboard... needs organising.

If you are me: you spend up to a couple of weeks taking things out of the cupboard and then leaving them on the counter until the cupboard's about half-empty, at which point you gather the cope to Sort It Out. (The more full the cupboard is the more overwhelmed you are and the less you have cope for anything including getting things out of it when you need them.)

If you are A: you keep putting things back into the cupboard willy-nilly until you hit a convenient confluence of executive function and boredom, then take everything out and put it back in a way that makes sense. (The more cluttered the side is the more overwhelmed you are and the less you have cope for anything, especially putting things away neatly.)


These two approaches... are not super compatible, especially if you both keep getting low-grade (minorly! briefly! fleetingly, even!) exasperated with the other person for Not Doing The Obviously Sensible Thing.

IT IS OKAY WE SORTED IT OUT but the conversation was a solid ten minutes of staring at each other in mounting confusion and perplexity and bafflement while we tried to make the words go enough to fit the concept of the One True Way into each others' heads before we finally got it resolved. (I'd say "sorted out" but that... is a job for another day.)

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Date: 2020-06-15 03:49 am (UTC)
ironed_orchid: watercolour and pen style sketch of a brown tabby cat curl up with her head looking up at the viewer and her front paw stretched out on the left (Default)
From: [personal profile] ironed_orchid
<3

Cupboards take a lot of work!

I don't have another human, so my process is something like:
1. cupboard under the bench is a bit unwieldy and I should do something about it.
2. The floor is dirty, I should probably clean the floor before sitting there sorting cupboard and pulling things out.
3. Sweep and mop floor. Now the floor is wet, and I'm tired, have a nap or sit at computer.
4. About one week later: repeat from step 1.

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Date: 2020-06-12 10:27 pm (UTC)
alexwlchan: (Default)
From: [personal profile] alexwlchan
*headtilt*

you are both good at domestic'ing, or something

have you considered fitting a rotating contraption to your cupboard? you both want to move objects from point X to point Y, you just disagree on the mapping between {X, Y} and {cupboard, side}. if you could rotate the two on an axis, you could change the mapping on a moment-by-moment basis.

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Edited Date: 2020-06-12 10:27 pm (UTC)

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Date: 2020-06-13 06:22 am (UTC)
cesy: "Cesy" - An old-fashioned quill and ink (Default)
From: [personal profile] cesy
lol

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Date: 2020-06-14 07:16 am (UTC)
alexwlchan: (Default)
From: [personal profile] alexwlchan
looking forward to my next visit, when i can admire the fancy rotating wall

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Date: 2020-06-12 11:13 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lunabee34
<3

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Date: 2020-06-13 08:43 am (UTC)
aldabra: (Default)
From: [personal profile] aldabra
I am in awe at your collective self-knowledge.

We got divorced. We *still* have incompatible approaches to my cupboards.

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Date: 2020-06-13 09:12 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] jedusor
this vaguely reminds me of a tweet I saw that went something like "whenever I grab the butter at the grocery store I get salted, whenever my wife grabs the butter she gets unsalted, we have been married for 17 years and we have never once had a conversation about this"

(when my partner and I were quarantining together for a few months in their very tightly packed 250-square-foot studio apartment, we kind of developed a system where I would say "is there a reason you do [household organizational thing] like this?" and usually they would be like "nope you can change that if you want" but once in a while it would just be "yes and the reason is I want it that way" XD)

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Date: 2020-06-16 12:02 pm (UTC)
el_staplador: (Default)
From: [personal profile] el_staplador
[personal profile] countertony and I, who will have been married for eleven years on Saturday, discovered a few weeks ago that he'd been operating on the 'food in the fridge is fair game' principle while I was still working on university household 'if you didn't buy it, don't eat it' rules.

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Date: 2020-06-16 04:37 pm (UTC)
jedusor: (food: dessert)
From: [personal profile] jedusor
but how? eleven years??

I hadn't really thought about it, but my roommate and I are fairly territorial with our food (we do share but we're explicit about what is to be shared) and my partner and I were much more lax about eating whatever was available, though I've done most of the cooking in both households. But that makes sense, since food is kind of part of the lifestyle D/s stuff I do with my partner (not that I tell them what to eat, but I get dommy about making them take a break for food or just putting it in front of them if they forget to eat too long). Roomie and I have a somewhat different relationship XD

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Date: 2020-06-16 09:13 pm (UTC)
el_staplador: (Default)
From: [personal profile] el_staplador
Well, the systems we'd developed as university housemates worked pretty well - we have a rota for cooking the evening meal, and would to avoid things that had obviously been bought for those purposes, and things like bread, milk, and cheese were always understood to be communal.

Where it gets interesting is lunch. I've tended to buy lunch in the staff canteen at work, or, at weekends, make myself a cheese sandwich (so using communal supplies). [personal profile] countertony goes in more for ham, sausages, meat in general. I'd been assuming for years that he was buying ham for his own personal consumption, and not eating it, and never buying it myself. Until now, when we're both eating lunch at home seven days a week, and I fancied a change, and bought myself a packet of Spanish cold meats... and was rather upset when it disappeared.

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Date: 2020-06-18 05:06 pm (UTC)
el_staplador: A yellow bird is depicted eating grapes in a stained-glass window (om nom nom)
From: [personal profile] el_staplador
We moved from YOU ATE MY HAM to Ah, we are operating under different assumptions (and I will buy you more ham) in fairly short order, and moved on to Please, do eat the olives!

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Date: 2020-06-13 02:38 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] ewt
I mean, I tend to take some of the stuff out of the cupboard, put it somewhere that it's also in the way, get overwhelmed, and then someone else comes along and puts *something else* in the cupboard that I think doesn't even belong there.

This is... highly suboptimal, but not a problem that's going to go away until we have many many more cupboards or many many fewer things (or some combination of both that meets in the middle).

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Date: 2020-06-13 06:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sfred
<3

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Date: 2020-06-13 07:01 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] conuly
Sounds frustrating.

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Date: 2020-06-15 12:28 am (UTC)
silveradept: A kodama with a trombone. The trombone is playing music, even though it is held in a rest position (Default)
From: [personal profile] silveradept
Excellence in communication and understanding.

I wish I had enough cupboard space to sort all the things and enough counter space to have all the appliances in the right places.

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Date: 2020-06-18 11:03 am (UTC)
ironed_orchid: watercolour and pen style sketch of a brown tabby cat curl up with her head looking up at the viewer and her front paw stretched out on the left (Default)
From: [personal profile] ironed_orchid
I dream of enough counter space and there is only one of me.

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Date: 2020-06-19 03:27 am (UTC)
inoru_no_hoshi: The most ridiculous chandelier ever: shaped like a penis. Text: Sparklepeen. (Default)
From: [personal profile] inoru_no_hoshi
The large advantage of having a brain that screeches about organization only insofar as things need to have a specific and explicit place if you want them Somewhere Precise (or for me to unfuck something bigger than, say, a small organizer or a grocery bag stuff with goodness knows what) is that I can usually slot shared space organizing so's it makes sense or is at least workable.

(I'm good at unfucking small, specific spaces. Large spaces? Um. Let's just say I'm working piecemeal at best. This is relevant because I am in fact in the process of a Large Unfuckening and it is made of Aaaaaaaa.)

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