Also there's the "okay so I am feeling Sad" situation, and possible responses include: * give no indication, show no weakness * acknowledge, demand support * acknowledge, ask for support without demanding (have a plan for what to do in case they can't give support right then/at all) * acknowledge without either asking for support or implicitly demanding support * acknowledge and defer support, e.g. "I'll be all right for now; I have a session booked for later this week" * acknowledge it when it isn't a crisis
I get stage fright. This is a thing I know about myself. I know that I am going to talk to People, and the pit of my stomach hurts and I shake. I also know that stage fright will not cause me to die, and that other people understand stage fright. Once I have recognized that it's stage fright, the experience diminishes from "oh my god I am suddenly in danger somehow?@?!! This is So Not Good!!!!" and being on board the Panic Symptom Escalator to "meh, this is somewhat tedious and WHY ARE BODIES EVEN." and de-escalates onto the Annoyance Conveyor Belt.
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Date: 2015-02-21 11:42 am (UTC)* give no indication, show no weakness
* acknowledge, demand support
* acknowledge, ask for support without demanding (have a plan for what to do in case they can't give support right then/at all)
* acknowledge without either asking for support or implicitly demanding support
* acknowledge and defer support, e.g. "I'll be all right for now; I have a session booked for later this week"
* acknowledge it when it isn't a crisis
I get stage fright. This is a thing I know about myself. I know that I am going to talk to People, and the pit of my stomach hurts and I shake. I also know that stage fright will not cause me to die, and that other people understand stage fright. Once I have recognized that it's stage fright, the experience diminishes from "oh my god I am suddenly in danger somehow?@?!! This is So Not Good!!!!" and being on board the Panic Symptom Escalator to "meh, this is somewhat tedious and WHY ARE BODIES EVEN." and de-escalates onto the Annoyance Conveyor Belt.