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[kaberett]

Approx my current mental state.

Two important realisations:
1. I don't have the foggiest what an operating curve is supposed to be in this context. BETTER FIX THAT.
2. The reason I was wiped today is that I forgot my psych meds last night, so took them this morning rather than risking withdrawal, having, um, forgotten that there's a reason I take my citalopram and amitriptyline at night...

Good things:
1. Thank you all, so much, for helpful suggestions about various bits and bobs, especially the gifts for counsellors etc.

2. For the first time in my undergraduate career, I have come home for the weekend in order to be looked after and concentrate better. This... is something I'm going to want to unpack a LOT with my counsellor, but is fundamentally probably a Really Good Sign.

3. Wove in the ends of project #1, got properly going with project #2.

4. Fannish conversation with randomling ♥

5. ALL the people are dating. :-)

6. Three lectures to go on this wretched course, and then I can call it good (enough).

7. My lovely mum, for just saying "yes sure when would you like to be picked up what would you like me to cook you for dinner" when I phoned her up at 10pm and pathetically asked if I could come home for the weekend.

8. And also for buying me an AMAZING COMFORTABLE MATTRESS last year, when I was really ill, on the grounds that if I was going to be spending a lot of time in bed I might as well be comfortable there. ♥ (And also my lovely goose-down quilt, which was a... Christmas present? When I was quite small.)

9. Ran lots of errands, including collecting nice post and paying in cheques and lunch with lovely director of studies and all the other geologists from my college.

10. Boything came to see me last night and we got to spend time together and I was reasonably sane and. Boything! Hurrah compatible neurodiversities. Hurrah people who recognise that curling up on each other and then Lying Very Still with occasional squeezes counts as snuggling. Hurrah all round, basically.

hurrah also being more-or-less in one piece. ♥

Comments

[pipisafoat]

Hurrah people who recognise that curling up on each other and then Lying Very Still with occasional squeezes counts as snuggling.
hang on
if there are people who don't see that as snuggling
............ what is snuggling to them?
(no serious question. i don't ... that is pretty much the definition of snuggling? as far as i have ever conceived of it, which now that i think of it obviously means that someone else somewhere has a different definition)
(and i'm pretty sure the ex that uses "snuggles" as "i'm gonna try to get into your pants" isn't that definition really.)
(so i'm kind of lost here)

hooray good things!

[kaberett]

idek apparently people exist who seem to think there has to be, like, stroking! and hand and arm motion! involved

which, um, sorry, but if I am involved? gross

like, if you really like it, and I really like you, I will tolerate it, but I am not ever going to enjoy it or think of doing it unprompted

[pipisafoat]

yeah no
prefer to be squished with no movement (well okay you gots to shift every now and then because limbs fall asleep or maybe you have to sneeze or something but that's about it says me) because for me the point of snuggling (not that i engage often) is input to make me stop needing to move (constant wiggles, me; appreciate heavy squishing for help inducing calming stillness)
(see also: i don't like how in summer it is too hot for sleep with heavy blanket because i will fidget all night and not sleep as well)


off topic / mental health warning: do you read xkcd, did you read today's, did you read today's hover-text?

[kaberett]

YES EXACTLY

and also yes yes and yes - it made me go Ow some, but mostly in a "THANK YOU ADULT FOR SAYING THAT" way

[worlds_of_smoke]

That's always been our definition of snuggling, though it can include non-sexual petting. Like, on bad days, I'll curl up and rest my head on Ole's lap and she'll stroke my hair to keep me grounded, as long as I need it. On the really bad days, it goes on all day, until we go to bed.

[pipisafoat]

I don't think of head-petting as snuggling because there is so little contact and tends to have an active role & a passive role. while snuggling (to me) is more equal. but super-fascinating to see how other people conceptualize the same things!

[worlds_of_smoke]

I think, for me, the key is that there's affection involved, it's non-sexual, and it lasts a while. So a hug isn't snuggling, but headpetting is.

[worlds_of_smoke]

Yay for good things!

re: 2: Yup. Pretty sure that's a Really Good Sign. :)

[untonuggan]

<3 your Good things, yay being more or less in one piece.

[hairyears]

curling up on each other and then Lying Very Still with occasional squeezes counts as snuggling.

I am delighted to hear that it isn't just K. and I who do that.