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kaberettTech-related stuff
Everything else I've been reading
- the issue with Tree Style Tabs that is currently making using the extension Very Irritating, but not as irritating as not having it would be
- What if everyone involved in the Adria Richards incident was in a union? A US-centric look, with topical focus, on the anatomy of a worker's union - and ways in which they are discredited Stateside.
- Donglegate: why the tech community hates feminists, which highlights the fact that Richards, as a woman of colour, received much viler treatment from the wider Internet community than e.g. the men she was calling out.
- Sexuality and sexism: on creating exclusive rather than inclusive space.
- skud's latest community-driven, open-source project is now in soft launch: GrowStuff, a social site for gardeners. Think Ravelry with more chlorophyll.
- any 750 words account created before the 1st of May will be free forever, where the site is generally moving to a subscription model.
Everything else I've been reading
- Inertia: from theory to praxis, written with an autistic audience in mind. Executive dysfunction - working out how to get from "sat in chair at computer to holding a glass of water", or "I know I want to get dressed, but I don't know where to start" - is something that gives me problems; I don't have written lists of How To Do A Day on my wardrobe doors, but it's something I've done in the past, and I have trained myself into having circumstance A automatically trigger action B.
- (content note: discussion of suicidality) Ashley Monroe, a US teenager, wrote out 1,986 iterations of "you're beautiful" on sticky notes, and put one on the door of the locker of every student at her school.
- Over at Genderfork, I got into a flamewar over the terminology "female-bodied". Whoops. But there is actually some interesting discussion there, and it's worth reading.
- On Taste: a not-that-quick primer to really, really, REALLY liking perfume. As someone taking my first tentative steps into perfume - I currently own a BPAL imp (Little Drummer Girl) and a huge bottle of Endymion (by Penhaligon's), I found this a very interesting read. (Next up: I need to work out how to be mindful of the fact that my own scentsitivities aren't other people's, and just because a scent doesn't provoke a reaction in me doesn't mean it's safe to wear in public.)
- A friend has started up a blog called Demystifying Music. Babelfish is someone I know via playing in very, very classical orchestras with them; they also spend a lot of time with the local rock & metal society, & hitch-hiking to festivals in Germany. With this blog, they're trying to, well, demystify classical music - to make it more accessible to audiences who haven't got training or experience in listening to the genre.
- Writer Beware is an information-dense blog I got recced recently; it contains detailed info on shady (self-)publishing outfits, deconstruction of contracts, and all sorts of other helpful bits and bobs.
- staranise does a fantastic job of reverse-engineering a panic response/mental block, and how to route around it. Seriously, if I ever manage to write that clearly about what's going on inside my head, I reckon I'll have won.
- My Sluthood, Myself: an old post on the Yes Means Yes blog about separating out sex from relationships, rather than falling into the model that shagging == true love, WE MUST MAKE IT WORK, etc. From the "things my younger self could have done with reading" files...
- And something cheerful to finish up with! Dear Evolution: letters of gripe and gratitude, in part from the folk who brought us WTF, Evolution? over at tumblr. :-)
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Date: 2013-04-04 05:51 am (UTC)I was struck by the degree of humility and consideration shown by the vast majority of comments on the genderfork thread. I take note of how it is done. And I learned (or unlearned) a thing or three. Thank you.
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Date: 2013-04-05 11:34 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-04-05 11:36 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2013-04-06 11:23 am (UTC)While writing this comment, I've just realised that my own style of discussion, and my standards and conventions of debate, are all attuned to technical and engineering discussions, where truth is a matter of testable hypothesis, and inconsistencies exist to be forcibly pried apart like rotten logs in search of an indisputable underlying reality.
It has never before occurred to me that this might be an unsuitable mode of discourse for the discussion of modes of self-perception. I have to laugh. Ruefully, but I have to laugh.
One of the reasons I like you so much is that nobody else undermines my own complacency quite so effectively!
So, a small resolution: forever after, in discussing anyone's view of themselves, remind myself that the comment you are replying to is true. (Bad faith excepted, of course.) Possibly inconsistent, possibly ill-expressed, possibly indicative of modes of thought that aren't conducive to the well-being of the author or of others; but nonetheless true to the person who wrote it, who is after all the authority on the matter.
Yoicks. Another rung on the ladder up towards Level Zero of constructive argument. Go me!
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Date: 2013-04-06 01:06 pm (UTC)One of the reasons I like you so much is that nobody else undermines my own complacency quite so effectively!
That is a beautiful, beautiful compliment, and I am getting a little misty-eyed over it. *nuzz*
Go you indeed. :-) You're one of my favourites, you are.