It took slightly longer than I'd like for it to stop reminding me of an ex I won't name Because Public Post, but... yeah.
I do wish the OP had been aware of the statistic about couples' counselling amplifying power imbalances and exacerbating abuse before it was pointed out that this was happening here. It's worryingly reliable, and tbh someone not having damn good reasons for doing their part of the work once told it's necessary is as big a red flag as any I can think of that don't involve hospital.
Edit to add: Oh god, point 10. I wish it was safe to rely on what medical professionals say about what can be noticed during "sex", but it isn't and while this isn't me, how did I get good at opsec in the first place?...
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I do wish the OP had been aware of the statistic about couples' counselling amplifying power imbalances and exacerbating abuse before it was pointed out that this was happening here. It's worryingly reliable, and tbh someone not having damn good reasons for doing their part of the work once told it's necessary is as big a red flag as any I can think of that don't involve hospital.
Edit to add: Oh god, point 10. I wish it was safe to rely on what medical professionals say about what can be noticed during "sex", but it isn't and while this isn't me, how did I get good at opsec in the first place?...