You can eat squash blossoms! That first one is probably male, since squash plants tend to start making male flowers before female, so it probably can't make a fruit and has no female flowers around that want to be pollinated. You can pick it and saute it! Here's one possibility: https://www.simplyrecipes.com/recipes/squash_blossom_quesadillas/

Even better, dip it in beaten egg and breadcrumbs and fry it!

People are silly about how much better food you have grown yourself tastes, but they are not wrong.