Ahahahah. This is speaking to me a lot right now. I'm currently waiting for Imperial to accept/reject me for a job. I'm finding coping quite astonishingly hard right now (partly because the last time I was job-hunting I was Srlsy Ill (TM), and it's reminding me of shit). So I'm having to use a lot of techniques to control the Stupid.
Also, at one level, self-harm is value-neutral. It's just that people have odd attitudes towards visible scarring. I look at self-harm scars and tend to think 'someone a bit like me', and that makes me OK. But others don't think like that. It also reminds me a bit of some of the advice I get as an eczema sufferer - scratch something else, not yourself. And it doesn't fucking work for me. I now try to do something else with my hands - in my case, play Roguelikes, but I am a bit strange. I try to direct the fidgety fingers and figdety brain into something else which may not be productive, but which is at least not apparently harmful.
BTW - if my habits aren't helpful to you, please feel free to tell me to fuck off. I appreciate that I don't necessarily use habits that are helpful to many people - I vaguely hope that they help some people who find oft-recommended things less than helpful, but I'm aware that others may find me Not Helpful, and I'm happy to be told that and fuck off and interact with you in more helpful ways.
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Also, at one level, self-harm is value-neutral. It's just that people have odd attitudes towards visible scarring. I look at self-harm scars and tend to think 'someone a bit like me', and that makes me OK. But others don't think like that. It also reminds me a bit of some of the advice I get as an eczema sufferer - scratch something else, not yourself. And it doesn't fucking work for me. I now try to do something else with my hands - in my case, play Roguelikes, but I am a bit strange. I try to direct the fidgety fingers and figdety brain into something else which may not be productive, but which is at least not apparently harmful.
BTW - if my habits aren't helpful to you, please feel free to tell me to fuck off. I appreciate that I don't necessarily use habits that are helpful to many people - I vaguely hope that they help some people who find oft-recommended things less than helpful, but I'm aware that others may find me Not Helpful, and I'm happy to be told that and fuck off and interact with you in more helpful ways.